Penalize ghosting

151 votes

95% of my matches don't even respond at all or just disappear after like 3 messages. The ghosting is just ridiculous. Please start penalizing ghosting by limiting their swipes or something.

Feedback Needed Suggested by: Ethan (24 Jun, '23) • Upvoted: yesterday • Comments: 14

Comments: 14

17 Jul, '23
Patrick
Amen agree with you 100 percent
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20 Aug, '23
Andrew
Absolutely. It's horrendous. I'm a convert, and frankly I expected better from members of the Church. The lack of maturity in general amongst the single females of the church is heart breaking.
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16 Oct, '23
Jonathan
Sometimes people have this thing called a life and they get caught up in it so please give us guys a chance we have feelings too
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14 Nov, '23
Adam
I think there should be more talk about why ghosting is bad. I realize that after talking for a little bit, one person might feel like the spark isn't there, so they stop talking or unmatch the other person even though the other side thought things were going well.
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25 Dec, '23
Ransomj
I would add a logic like:
If they haven't responded for 3 days, then send a prompt to the other user with: "has this person ghosted you?" If yes, reduce swipe limits for the ghoster. Maybe send an automated message to the ghoster asking them if they want to keep messaging the person or not. Like a "hello you're ghosting this user, and that's NOT an okay thing to do"
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27 Dec, '23
Asher
I agree that ghosting should be penalized. Perhaps the removal of the account from mutual or pause it so it can't be seen.
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19 Jan
Amy
If ghosting is a problem, there should be a prompt though for the person who has not sent any messages. It can be, please select the reason for not communicating with this person: 1., Not interested in the same things/dating goals. 2., I'm busy with life/I'm taking a break from Mutual. 3., We've met and I'm not interested. 4., I'm not sure we have anything in common, (provide a conversation prompt.). 5., I'm ghosting them (provide a space for them to explain.). Then for the person who feels ignored, you can explain it by 1&4 - Why do you want to match with them? 3&5 - Unmatch them. 2 - Be patient. They've got a lot on their plate right now.
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02 Feb
Bryan
What is the alternative? I'd rather someone ghost me than keep up the conversation out of obligation (or fear of app repercussions for ghosting!), or send a needlessly harsh message explaining that they're no longer interested.

Like, if interest isn't mutual, it sucks no matter how it unfolds. I'm highly skeptical that penalizing ghosting could do anything but make things worse.
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16 Feb
Reggie
I am for this! It is completely inconsiderate to waste the time of the people you match with. Penalties for it are fair. Simply say why your not interested. Though the one problem I can see is that girls will just lie about the reason.
16 Feb
J
People, we are not obligated or entitled to like someone! We all have our agency and if it doesn't work out....move on! I am sure that EVERYONE on here has "ghosted" someone.....
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19 Feb
Danyale
I think it would be better if the person who didn't respond would receive a prompt asking them if they are still interested or if they would like to unmatch after like 5 days to a week or something since life happens.

If they unmatched, then I at least know for sure they aren't actually interested. A chat getting archived after no response on the other hand is more frustrating.
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13 Mar
Coralia
No penalties for ghosting!! This is a passive aggressive act to rejection.

People that have been ghosted and are complaining about it, and people that speak/ write racist expressions should be placed in a Safety Issues Group. They need to read the Book of Mormon more often, grow up and respect our own doctrines.
You just want to take everyone else down with you brother, just because you feel uncomfortable; that’s not right 🤦🏼‍♀️💛🌹
I am voting against Ethan’s IDEA!
30 Mar
M
Some of us are busy with work or only have the budget option of Mutual and can't always see who has liked us etc....don't isolate a crowd already struggling to get out there
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21 Apr
Shan
Yes! So long as there’s a 24-48 hour window for responses before penalties to account for people who have variable work schedules or what not.